Depression – It’s Not A Choice, Myth Or Weakness!

Depression is invisible, real and often has devastating financial, emotional and physical consequences. Some believe it’s a myth! Depression is not a choice, myth or weakness. It’s a medical condition when every day is Blue Monday and needs to be treated like one!

 

A few years ago, I watched helplessly as a friend’s marriage broke down. He lost his home, job and ended up sleeping in the streets. Though diagnosed with depression, he believed that “grown men” don’t Continue reading “Depression – It’s Not A Choice, Myth Or Weakness!”

Why Moaners, Pessimists and Procrastinators are Bad For You!

This is why moaners, procrastinators and perpetual pessimists are bad for you. Over time, they harm  your health and well-being with too much stress.Would it be better to avoid them, altogether?

 

The more time you spend with them, the more your stress levels become higher! These people can be classed as super stressors!

 The Perpetual Moaners

 

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“Smile at the world and they smile back”, they say.

 

Well, guess what – the opposite happens when you’re around somebody who complains and moans all of the time.

 

I don’t mean people who are going through rough times and genuinely need to talk about their issues. I mean the people who complain about everyone and everything. They have no good thing to say about anyone or anything.

 

I’m talking about the people who complain about everyone and everything. They have no good thing to say about anyone or anything.

 

I mean the people who complain about everyone and everything.

They have no good thing to say about anyone or anything.

 

If they feel bad you need to hear it! They want to spread their unhappiness so that they’re not alone in their misery.

 

I know we all need someone to listen to us when we feel like unburdening ourselves sometimes. But not all of us are trained psychologists and psychiatrists to be able to deal with the endless “unburdening”.

 

But not all of us are trained psychologists and psychiatrists to be able to deal with the endless “unburdening”!

 

I had the misfortune to live with someone like this sometime ago.

After a while, I felt I needed anti-depressants while this person was okay just so long as I continued to be the sounding-board.

“The Perpetual Pessimist”

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Do you think the world is a bad place? The perpetual pessimist thinks nobody and nothing can be good. I think the world is a beautiful place. It’s just some people who make it seem like a bad place.

 

It’s just some people who make it seem like a bad place.No matter the perspective from which we look at the world and nature, it`s a pretty amazing place.

 

No matter the perspective from which we look at the world and nature, it`s a pretty amazing place.

Take the human body for example. Think about how we are formed, the awesome way our organs all work together.

Ponder on the beauty and intricateness of the human body and mind.

 

Another reason the world is good – the beautiful and free gifts of nature.

If the rising and setting of the sun cost money to see, I wonder how many of us could afford this?

 

Can you imagine paying for oxygen? How long could you afford to sustain living? I generally try to avoid these people, as much as is humanly possible.

” The Procrastinating People”

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They are the ones who complain endlessly about how bad their situations are. Yet they make no effort to change things.

Even when you are feeling happy, all you need to do is to spend a short time with them. You are guaranteed to become as morose and unhappy as they are.

The people we associate with do tend to affect our peace of mind  and happiness.

 

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I know you there are times and situations you can’t choose the people you spend time with. Take as an example work colleagues. But, to an extent, you do get to determine the type of persons that you spend time with!

 

Sure, it’s good to make the effort to get along with everyone. But sometimes it’s just futile – some people just bring out the worst in you.

 

Eventually, your health and well-being may begin to suffer  due to the high stress they are causing you. Mine certainly did when I lived with “a constant moaner” – I developed depression!

 

Surround Yourself With People Who Motivate You!

 

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Therefore, to maintain  peace of mind and sanity, how about choosing to spend the least time possible with these types of people?

 

Instead, try to spend more time with the people who make you happy. Surround yourself with people who give you motivation. Have more contact with people who bring out the best in you.

Have more contact with people who bring out the best in you.

 

How do you cope with people, work colleagues or relatives, who you feel are causing you stress?

You’ve met them – The constant moaners, those who believe the world is hopelessly bad and the  procrastinators who won’t take any step to change the things making them sick and unhappy.

 

I’m interested in your opinion of this article. Do you think I’m right or not?  Do get in touch!  🙂

Have a great week!

 

Cecilia Scheyerle, MPharm

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Depression – Why Your Milk Of Human Kindness Is Needed. Not Stigma!

This day and age depression is still associated with much stigma. But no one gets it by choice, design or because of personal weakness.

You don’t get depression by choice!

No one who has been affected by this debilitating mental health condition chose to get it!
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This is quite a sad thing, really. Considering that it’s a medical condition, like any other. No one would think less of someone just because they had a fall – except, of course, that happened as a result of drunkenness!

Again, no one looks down on a person with migraine, a broken leg or Type 1 diabetes.

So, why is it that when someone has depression so much negativity is associated with it?

So much negativity that it’s a triumph for them to admit, even to themselves, that they have depression.

 

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Let’s show more understanding instead of stigmatising people who suffer from this condition.  Show more tolerance and understanding. This way they can admit it to themselves that they have a medical condition. And get help when they do.

And get the help they need, for themselves and their families.

Especially children who won’t understand why mum or dad is unhappy .

Everyone would like to be happy! Or not??

But for someone going through depression, it’s not a case of “happiness is a choice! Be happy”!

 

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Partly due to the stigma and misunderstanding attached to depression, sufferers often deny they have a problem.

In fact, when someone can admit to the fact that they have got depression, they have won half of the fight!!

Here are some Depression Aids I find helpful. The more we understand this condition, the more we are able to help ourselves and others suffering from it:

As a health professional and a mother, I believe that a healthy lifestyle is a cure all! Or almost! So, I really like Stephen Ilardi’s program on beating depression.

This program focuses on lifestyle and practical ways to help you reclaim six ancient lifestyle elements that can improve or eradicate depression:

The 6 Steps Program To Beat Depression

Underneath The Lemon Tree – A Memoir On Depression

 I would love to hear about your opinions regarding depression. Have you, or anyone you know, got some experience you would like to share?

Please  get in touch. The more we talk about depression the better it will get for the eight to ten percent of  the population who suffer from this debilitating condition in any given year.

 

To Your Optimum Health & Well-being!

Cecilia Scheyerle, MPharm

 

7 Lies We Tell Ourselves To Make Depression More Powerful

Depression is invisible. But real and can have devastating consequences. Check these popular myths about it. Read why it’s not by personal choice, design or weakness.

Some  of us may have  had these thoughts, or even spoken them aloud, at some point in time: depression is a myth!

Do you think like this – Other people get depression, not people like us?

Or this – depression is just a condition lazy people invent to excuse their laziness.

 

Here are some other popular myths about depression – real men don’t get depression; I am a busy woman and I have no time to be depressed; depression is a condition

– Real men don’t get depression

– I’m a busy woman and I have no time to be depressed

– Depression is a condition hypochondriacs develop when they run out of medical conditions to complain about

– I’m too strong to be depressed

– I wouldn’t be depressed if everyone else would just leave me alone

However, depression doesn’t happen by choice or design! Nobody chooses to get depression.

But how they choose to deal with it may be a matter of choice.

 

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Depression  has no respect  for a person’s  status. Anyone can develop it – rich, poor, old, young, executive, teenager, man or woman.

It can happen to anyone, at any time, slowly or over time. It can hit you hard when you least expect it.

 

Real, strong men can not get depression. Yes, they can, and they do!

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In fact, if you think like this, you are more liable to suffer more from depression – you remain in denial longer. You cause more emotional harm to  yourself and your loved ones, and you would be more liable to lose your job!

 

 

Now to the people who often think they have to be strong towers – women. They may think they  have no time to be ill.

They are too busy – they have to run the family, take care of all the people they love, run businesses and ensure their careers are upwardly mobile, always!!

 

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Who else is going to do all these things we alone as women can do??

Yes, women have to make time to take care of ourselves, too.

Otherwise, there may no one and nothing left for us to care for!

The fact that we  cannot see the physical signs and symptoms of depression does not make it less real.

Depression does not develop because you are weak. It’s not a matter  of lack of strength on your part.

If you fall down and break a leg, do you regard this as a lack of strength on your part? Or does someone get cancer because they are weak?

You don’t get depression because you are too weak to overcome the obstacles of life and flourish!

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You do not get depression because you are a weak person. It’s not a matter of emotional strength or weakness!!

Another myth is believing that the depression we are experiencing would cease to be if everyone would just leave us in total peace.

 

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Absolute peace and quiet. From our children, our partners, colleagues, neighbours and bosses.Since that is never going to happen, we will have to confront depression from another angle- treat it as a condition it is and not just the fault of everyone in our lives.

This is never going to happen. No one is an Island!we will have to confront depression from another angle- treat it as a condition it is and not just the fault of everyone in our lives.

We have to confront depression from another angle- treat it as the condition it is. Not just the fault of everyone else in our lives!

Take it that you need some intervention.  You need some help, just like everyone else, at some point in life. Period!

You know, it’s possible to have outer quiet and still suffer from  inner turmoil. Especially when you realise you need help. But remain in denial.

 

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Let’s give a helping hand and treat depression as the medical condition it is. Not something weak people develop; not a condition that happens by choice or weakness; not something hypochondriacs get when they run out of conditions to suffer from; not for a certain age or class of persons. It can happen to anyone!

 

Depression. Why Can’t Some People Be Happy Like Normal Humans?!

Since  depression is a condition  that does not display obvious signs we can  see easily, some of us have developed myths about it. Myths and negative feelings that ensure that much stigma is still attached to this condition. 

 Do you belong to the group of persons who have this thought – other weak people get depression – not people like us. Or even told someone who is really depressed, “get hold of yourself. There is nothing like depression. Live in the real world like the rest of us, lazy git!”?

No wonder people with depression get so little understanding and often struggle with accepting the fact that they have the condition themselves!

Here are some other myths people are spreading about depression

  • Real men don’t get depression
  • I am a busy woman and I have no time to be depressed
  • Depression is a condition hypochondriacs develop when they run out of medical conditions to complain about
  • I am too strong to be depressed
  • I will not have depression if everyone would just leave me alone
Depression  has no respect  for a person’s  statusAnyone can develop it – rich, poor, old, young, executive, teenager, man or woman. It can happen to anyone, at any time. It can slowly creep up on you over time. Or hit you hard when you least expect it.

Real, strong men cannot get depression.
Yes, they can, and they do!
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In fact if you think like this, you are more liable to suffer more from depression – you remain in denial longer. You cause more emotional harm to  yourself and your loved ones.  And, you are more liable to lose your job. 
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I am the woman and I must remain strong!
Now as women, we often feel that we have no time to be ill. We are too busy – we have to run the family, maintain social contacts with friends and take care of all the people we love.
We run our businesses and make many sacrifices to ensure our careers are upwardly mobile. Who is taking care of us??
Who else is going to juggle all these areas of life, like women alone can?!
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As women, we should make time to take care of ourselves. Otherwise, there may no one and nothing left for us to care for.Yes, lots of  women often feel this way. They are so busy taking care of everybody else in their lives. Just not themselves!
Here’s my experience on this – My children talking to me when I drag myself around with flu when I really ought to be in bed. “Mom, stop moaning that you are ill. You are not! If you really are ill, lie down or sit down!”  
The fact that we  cannot see the physical signs and symptoms of depression does not make it any less real.
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As for  depression being solely as a result of strength – if you fall down and break a leg, do you regard this as a lack of strength on your part? Or does someone get cancer because they are weak? 
You do not get depression because you are a weak person.

I am not depressed, I just need absolute peace

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Another myth is believing that the depression we are experiencing would cease to be if everyone would just leave us in total peace.

Do you feel you need to be in an island all by yourself? Lots of us would love this too. At least, sometimes! But it’s the regularity of needing this, not wanting it, that makes a huge difference!
Absolute peace and quiet. From – children, partners, colleagues, neighbors and bosses. It’s difficult, if not downright impossible to have that amount of peace and quiet! For more than a few days!
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So, how about you confront depression as what it is. From another angle – treat it as the medical condition it is and not just as the fault of everyone else in your life! Although, on the light side, living with very negative people would be enough to make anyone depressed! 
It’s possible to have outer quiet and still suffer from  inner turmoil. 
If you know of other myths and misconceptions around depression,please get in touch, dear people!
Do get in touch with your experiences, comments and questions here. I would really appreciate it!

To your Optimum Health & Well-being,

Cecilia Scheyerle, MPharm